How you can welcome male spouse ALA members at all Auxiliary levels

Posted On: Thursday, 23 January 2020
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It doesn’t take extreme efforts to welcome male spouses to Auxiliary meetings, events, activities, and programs. Treat these men the same as you would other ALA members. Try to be as inclusive as possible to everyone. Following are a few additional suggestions:

  • Conduct “getting-to-know-you” icebreakers at meetings and events for everybody, especially new members. Avoid singling out men in the group. Include the male spouse Auxiliary members in discussions and planning, and in activities and events. Be open to what they have to say or contribute. They may offer different perspectives, talents, ideas, and resources.
  • You can ditch the phrases “world’s largest women’s patriotic service organization” and “ladies’ Auxiliary” in reference to the American Legion Auxiliary.
  • When speaking or writing, consider using non-gender-specific words.
  • Consider changing any gender-specific references on the websites and social media accounts representing your ALA unit, district, department, etc.
  • The same thing goes for ALA-related paperwork, including your governing documents, promotional materials, communications vehicles (such as newsletters), and forms. Feel free to continue using your existing membership applications if you want — just write in a box for “male spouses/widowers” in the “applicant’s relationship to veteran” area, and add another box for “other conflicts/service periods” in the “veteran served” section for those who served during a time not currently listed.

Please contact your department for additional assistance on, or questions about, adapting existing membership applications to reflect these two recent changes to eligibility criteria. Updated versions of our Auxiliary membership application can be printed from the ALA national website at

ALA Mission

In the spirit of Service, Not Self, the mission of the American Legion Auxiliary is to support The American Legion and to honor the sacrifice of those who serve by enhancing the lives of our veterans, military, and their families, both at home and abroad. For God and Country, we advocate for veterans, educate our citizens, mentor youth, and promote patriotism, good citizenship, peace and security.